Paul Dakin (1761 in Pawling NY - 1829 in Hudson NY) was the son of Timothy Dakin and Lydia Fish. Timothy had moved as a child from Concord MA to the Quaker community in Oblong NY and Lydia had likewise moved from Dartmouth MA to Oblong. Timothy and Lydia raised their twelve children as part of Oblong Monthly Meeting.
In searching the list of Quaker records online in the James Hazard index for the Friends Historical Library at Swarthmore College, I found two references to Paul Dakin, his birth and his disownment. So I sent for the records. The xerox of the microfilm of the disownment was not completely readable, so I ordered a scan of the original documents. I can not reproduce the scan here since it is for personal use only. But, I will provide the transcription. I couldn't read a couple of words, and a wonderful person at the library, Patricia Chapin O'Donnell translated them for me.
As you can tell by reading the documents, he had the option of "reforming his ways" and returning to Meeting. I have no evidence that Paul ever did that. I find him ten years later in the 1790 Census, living in Hudson NY. By 1794 I find him in newspapers articles in Hudson. By now he is listed as one of the newly elected town Assistants in Hudson NY (15 May 1794, Albany Gazette). In New England at that time, running for public office would get you disowned from Meeting, so I suspect he was no longer a Quaker.